This is a great thread, BTW, and I should also say this is the kind of thread that is intended for this particular forum. Well done, gents! Let's see if my tiny grey matter can add something to the mix to keep it going.
Assuming mass remains constant, it is the volume which changes.
True, but it is the assumption that mass remains constant (with time) that is, IMO, part of the "problem" we face in seeing mass as somehow segregated from spacetime. And when taken with regard to this statement:
An object moving in time at a rate different than an observer will appear to scale in size. Funny nobody mentions this when talking about mass-energy conversions.
Yes, it is quite funny. And again, IMO this disjoint assumption of "constant mass" (or ignoring the internal mass-energy fluctuations of a body) are what contribute to ignorance of how time, or more specifically spacetime, relates to mass on cosmological and quantum scales. One can grasp the distinction in two different ways that we teach classical mechanics of energy conservation:
When I teach elementary fluid dynamics, I draw the comparison between the classical mechanical energy equation (m*g*h1 + 0.5*m*v1^2 = m*g*h2 + 0.5*m*v2^2) and Bernoulli's equation for pressure energy (P1 + rho*g*h1 + 0.5*rho*v1^2 = P2 + rho*g*h2 + 0.5*rho*v2^2). The equations are virtually identical but that one holds for solid matter and the other is applicable to fluids. Yet while they are VIRTUALLY identical, students always ask why the pressure form has P1 and P2 (static pressures) and the matter form has no equivalent. The answer is that in the mechanical/matter form we are assuming mass remains constant and therefore we ignore the internal mass-energy of the solid object that is moving from state 1 to state 2. However, the fluid dynamic treatment cannot ignore the "internal energy" represented by static pressure since it CAN and DOES change from point to point in a flowfield.
This is precisely why Einstein's "energy density" model follows (and looks an awful lot like) the fluid dynamic paradigm, because at both cosmological and quantum scales we cannot afford to "assume constant mass" nor ignore internal mass-energy. I believe it also provides a clue to how relativity and quantum theory will eventually be united.
We now know that "mass/matter" (I believe they are distinctly different entities, and have defined them as such, but most use the terms interchangeable) is only a VERY small portion of total cosmological energy (~4%), with Dark Matter (DM) and Dark Energy (DE) rounding out the remaining 96% of energy. It is my belief that normal baryonic matter (the ~4%) is not and cannot be isolated from DM and DE. They interact. In much the same way that static pressure, head pressure, and dynamic pressure interact with one another in the fluid model. And this is also part of my hunch that, at some point, we will no longer be able to treat mass/matter as a scalar quantity. To understand how baryonic matter, DM, and DE interact, we will need to adopt a vector (tensor) model for mass.... and that will eventually lead to what I call the Massive SpaceTime 3x3 Matrix.
RMT