Angleochaos,
Good observation (excuse the pun).
Even among working QM physicists there is an ongoing debate about the complete meaning of what an observer is. In the fringe there is the metaphysical idea of how an observation event affects a quantum system. The far out metaphysical theories suggest that even thinking about a quantum system can cause it to change.
But when we just look at the physical meaning of observation we can understand why is causes a change in the system. We have to do something that equates to an input of energy into the system if we want to observe it. To observe such a system we have to "launch", at a minimum, photonic energy at the substomic particles we want to see. Now if we are attempting to observe a Mack truck with a few photons, or even a few billion photons, we won't noticably change the system (even though we really did change it to some infinitesimal extent). But if we are attempting to observe the state and behavior of a few electrons, launching photons at them involves energies and masses not much less than the electrons themselves. If we launch a VW Bug at a Mack truck we will substantially change the system. The mass/energy ratio is about the same. There really is no such animal as "passive uninvasive observation". If we "look" at a system we will change it.
Don't mistake this explanation for the actual complete QM explanation. I gave you a simple classical explanation. Beneath that explanation there are causes and effects that absolutely have no classical equivalent. Subatomic particles do not move and react like billiard balls. Billiard balls have well defined positions, masses, velocities, etc. Not so with quantum particles like electrons, protons and the like. We can only describe their evolution as a system with statistical maths. If we strike a billiard ball just right with the que we can say that there is a 99% probability that the ball will find the corner pocket. With subatomic particles all we can say is that if we make 100,000 observations of a system that one of the billion or so particles has a 99% chance of finding the corner pocket during any particular observation...but we have no idea which particle that will be. We can't even identify and differentiate one proton from any other proton (electron, neutron, meson, neutrino...). We can't guarantee that the particle that does find the corner pocket didn't "cheat" by quantum tunneling through the side rail, turning left and dropping into the pocket. Try that one with a billiard ball!
Subatomic particles do what they do and really don't care if we mear mortal humans don't understand how or why they act the way they act....sort of like teenagers as they view old farts. You know, adults over the age of 30.