I'm Desperate... Please Help

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I\'m Desperate... Please Help

Dear all,

I am new to this forum. I probably don't really belong here because I don't have a scientific background and have never had any interest in time travel other than the general ponderances of someone who likes sci-fi movies. I came to this site when I recently started to looking for information on time travel. And I would like to ask for everyone's help here.

My wife Tiffany, who was 32 years old, was diagnosed with terminal stomach cancer 5 months ago, and she passed away last month. She leaves behind our two wonderful young children, who are 3 years and 10 months old. She was an exceptional person in every way, and I love her very, very much. I have been having a very hard time with the grief, and my mind constantly thinks about what could have happend to prevent this. Other than some supernatural occurence, the only way I could imagine that her life would have been saved is if somehow somebody told us years ago about her growing cancer so we could have it surgically removed before it was too late; by the time she felt symptoms, she was already in late stage and there are no good treatments for her type of cancer.

Believe me, I'm normally a very rational person and for me to be looking into time travel and come here and ask for help is indicative of how desperate I have become and how unwilling I am to accept what's happened. Now I know full well that there is no known methods of time travel with our current technology, and other than the whole John Titor thing there has not been anything subsantital on possible real time travelers or time travel machines on the web, and most everyone on this site is still just looking for and discussing theories and conjectures.

I guess my hope is that there may indeed be someone in this time that has developed something working or close to working, or that if in the future we do figure out how to travel through time, then there is a good chance that there is someone in our time right now who travelled here and would have the means to help someone travel to the past.

What I am hoping for, since everyone here has obviously been interested in this subject and know much more than I do, is if people here could help to point me to some of the more promising directions. I'm willing to talk to anyone that either claims to be or has heard of or talked to someone who is a traveler and/or has the means to travel. I don't even mind getting jerked around by hoaxes, and I'm willing to exhaust every lead. Again, I do think that it is possible that there are travelers in our time right now that came from the future, as long as time travel is actually possible, it is reasonable to think it was developed in the future and thus someone here is capable of it. I'm just so desperate I'm willing to try anything. So if anyone here can give me any directions at all on anything (other than Titor, as I don't think I can contact him anymore even if he was real), I will be very appreciate of any help.

Thank you all,

Desperate
 
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Dear Desperate,

Did you ever try letting her go? Our pasts shape our lives, although I am sure it seems inconceivable at this point for you, in 20 years your life will have turned out better because of this, the pain will still be there, and time travel is never going to solve that most ultimate of problems, our own mortality. Appreciate the good times that you had, because other than building your own time travel device I sincerely doubt those with the capability of time traveling would hardly care about your loved one. They are not the type to be concerned with such matters, they are usually far more scientifically minded.
 
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Desperate,

I'm sorry for your loss. Is there someone who could refer you to a counselor? I would honestly suggest you talk to a therapist, losing someone so close to you is very painful, believe me I know. You will get through this. Give yourself time to grieve, you can't change the past, but you have a future ahead of you with your children.
 
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I feel sorry for your loss. But I think time travelling is yet to be accomplished. I am interested in time travel for a reason similar to yours. I believe my aunt who died 9 years ago still lives in some other worldline, still caring for me.
 
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I am sorry for your loss.Here is a move i think you should tack a look at it deals with what you are going throw and how time travel would not help you. Its cald The Time Machine its a move based of the book. In the move he bilds a time machine to go back and save the woman he love but he find out he cant save her cous the hole resone he bilt the machine and went back is becous of here.
Do you see the paradox.I fell for you man but i think you need to find some help deling with this. And you need to be thar for your kids in the real world.
 
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I am sorry for your loss.Here is a move i think you should tack a look at it deals with what you are going throw and how time travel would not help you. Its cald The Time Machine its a move based of the book. In the move he bilds a time machine to go back and save the woman he love but he find out he cant save her cous the hole resone he bilt the machine and went back is becous of here.
Do you see the paradox.I fell for you man but i think you need to find some help deling with this. And you need to be thar for your kids in the real world.
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Let me Translate for Craze.

I am sorry for your loss. Here is a movie I think you should take a look at, it deals with what you are going through and how time travel would not help you. Its called "The Time Machine", its a movie based off of the book. IN the movie, he builds a time machine to go back and save the woman he loves, but he finds out he can't save her because the whole reason he built the machine and went back is because of her. Do you see the paradox? I feel for you man but I think you need to find some help dealing with this, and you need to be there for your kids in the real world.
 
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Dear all,

My sincerest thanks to all who have read my message and have responded so kindly. Many of you have written very supportive and kind messages to me, and some have been supporitve of this quest of mine. And some have tried to encourage me to be strong and get one and take care of the children, to which I also appreciate. I just want to assure everyone that I do understand fully how unlikely all this is, and in some way, perhaps a bit unhealthy. And I do get up daily and try to do my best to raise my children. I am trying to get through my grief like people in my situation might, and I think this is just part of it, part of my reluctance of letting go.

I also would like everyone to understand that, yes, part of what makes me unable to let go and to come to a forum like this to ask for help is my own desperate need of have her back. But mostly, it's for her and for my children. It's knowing how unwilling she was to leave this earth and leave our children; she was someone who lived her whole life just to be a mother, and having to leave them when she just had just brought them into the world was simply too unbearable for her. She fought literally to her last breath for she would not accept having to leave them. And I am also doing this for the children. it's me knowing how unfair it is for them to have to grow up without their mother. Everytime I see them, I feel so sad for them, and the desperate need for me to try to do something about it, to get her back for them somehow.

Unfortunately, and as expected, it doesn't seem so far that anyone has been able to give me any information or leads on TT. That is not a surprise, of course, as I fully understand that we are very far from it technologically right now. However, I still believe that there is a possibility that if TT is theoretically possible, then in the future, perhaps way in the future, it will be achieved, and therefore someone in our time may be from the future, and that person or persons may monitor forums like this for whatever reason. And my real goal was to get the attention of someone like that, from the future, and to plead my case for them to consider helping me. Just in case someone does read this and is able to help me, I want to assure them that this is not some kind of a hoax, and that I and my wife and our children are real people and I am really pleading desperately, to even try something like this. To that end, I've included some photos of us:


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This is one of our wedding photos.

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This is a photo taken of her and our children in our home the night after she was diagnosed with cancer. Our baby girl Emily was only 7 months old, and our boy Andrew was about 2 and half.

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A photo of all of us taken that same night.

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This is a picture of her taken with me in December in the hospital. It was about a month and half before she passed away of the cancer.


Again, I want to thank everyone for reading my messages and all the kind words. I understand that perhaps no one will really be able to help me at all, and the only thing I ask of everyone is to try to send a short reply to this post so that the thread stays fresh and therefore can be read by more people all the time. I just dont' want to miss a chance of someone who really is a traveller coming to this site but not going back far enough to see this thread.

And just in case someone is able to help me, I want to assure you that I will do whatever is necessary to make sure that any help I am given to try to get her back will result in the least negative effect in the future. She was a school teacher and mother, that was it. She would not have made any significant differences to the course of history in the future. And I would make sure that if her life was allowed to continue somehow, it would impact the future in the least bit possible, such as quitting being a teacher. If you are someone who can help me, please consider how you would be able to bring life and happiness back to this young family and our young children.

Thank you all.
 
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Desperate -
I am sorry for your loss. If you haven't already, please pick up this book and read it.
The Purpose Driven Life - by: Rick Warren

My grandma died of cancer that could've been prevented if she would've been checked out earlier in her life. I wish I could go back in time and tell her to go to the doctor and get checked out. She had said before she died that she at least wanted to live long enough so that my daughter would remember her but that didn't happen. I miss her alot.

Take good care of your children as I know you will. PLEASE read the book I suggested to you.
Good luck and God Bless.
 
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You have been included in my prayers. A difficult time in your life, indeed. The book mentioned in the above post is an excellent book.

I hope that this Time Travelling thing won't deter you from being there for your children. Even if you were successful with finding someone to take you back, could you live through this thing again ?

Time, now, has allowed you the chance to look within yourself and find an inner strength to carry on. Even though she may have moved on, you should know that her love is still alive within your heart and those of your children. You also have been blessed with companionship of two beautiful children and have the opportunity to be a major influence in their lives.

You need not be so desperate, my friend. You just need to step up and seek assistance from the many resources available to you. It is OK to grieve, we all have to do it at some point in our lives. Just dont let it drag you down into staying in the past . The future for you actually will be quite an adventure, as you have such an opportunity to become involved within the lives of your kids.
 
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